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gently molding habits

12 Jan


The kids worked hard yesterday afternoon.  They conquered their bedrooms and each received a full 5 points!

Remember the original goal? To change a habit by gently molding, encouraging, and having fun.  This doesn’t mean that the work was necessarily fun for them, but the outcome was worth the work.

The hardest part is over, now their desire for points will help to drive

 the desire to maintain.  Throughout the process, the self discipline naturally grows!


the good, the bad, and the ugly

11 Jan

The target area I chose for my positive “molding experiment“, was the children’s bedrooms.  Yesterday I told you we had instant success, and that is true, but you would think I was crazy if you actually walked into their rooms.  The bedrooms were ten times worse than before we started!!!  I tried not to laugh as I looked for something to complement them on. They were so excited!

I had given them each 5 focus points on their chart.   So, each evening they have the potential of filling all 5 squares.  The challenge is for 21 days, but to keep them motivated, I broke it up into 7 day sections.  Whoever has the most points after the first 7 days gets to make a dessert of their choice.

1. Beds

2. Clothes

3. Toys

4. Closets

5. Bathrooms

I assumed they would try to conquer all 5 areas right away to receive 5 points.  Instead, they simply made their bed look great! Then… started emptying closets.  Today the little girls were so excited to show me their clean closet.  Beautiful! They had done a super job, but boy oh boy, the floor was a disaster! The boy’s room was very similar; they also were digging deeply. Unfortunately, I couldn’t give them a point for a job half done.  I made sure to notice the nicely made beds and let them know I was confident they would achieve a full closet point tomorrow after they put away all the things they pulled out of the closet! In a house with a bundle of kiddos, a bit of competition also comes into play.  Their enthusiasm is contagious and is motivating me as well!

Hats off to all of you that have picked up the challenge!

off to a great start!

10 Jan

Without mentioning anything to the children, I drew up the simple charts I referred to in yesterday’s post.  They walked in just as I was trimming off the extra paper.  Since they love crafty projects, they were immediately interested in whatever I might be doing.  I didn’t say much, just asked them for some fun paper stock to use as a back ground.  Within moments they were back with their favorite picks helping me tape the charts on the wall.

They weren’t sure what I was up to, but the excitement was building rapidly!  I hardly said a thing other than making sure the youngest could read  the few words on the chart.

Full of enthusiasm, they asked if they could start right away!

Day 1 : SUCCESS!

a little experiment

9 Jan

One of the things I love about young children is how mold-able they are.  It’s true that some children may have a stronger will and more determination than others, but that’s not all bad.  They need to be guided in positive ways.

Anyone up for doing a “molding” experiment with me?

I am going to try to help a few of my kiddos change some negative habits that  have been forming. My goal is to make it fun and help them catch the spirit.   Charts and stickers have worked well with my little ones,  so that’s the method I’ll use and extend it for 21 days.  Supposedly that’s how long it takes to make or break a habit.

I’ll let you know how the progress goes.

Resource:  “Children are Wet Cement”