Five Areas to Better Serve
Caring for others, whether it be small children, the sick, elderly… whoever is in need, is challenging and often all consuming.
It was our desire and choice to care for Great Aunt. It was a natural fit, in that I was already home everyday caring for our own children, we both had some experience in the area, and had purchased a house that suited the situation. Never-the-less, sometimes the task was overwhelming. At times I found it affecting every other area of my life.
It was during a low ebb, drained both physically and emotionally, that I pinpointed 5 areas to redirect my focus to better serve both Great Aunt and my family.
1. Remember who I am serving
I was serving Great Aunt, but ultimately, I was serving God. I could never do things well enough for Great Aunt and as a result, felt I was always striving, but never pleasing. I learned to change my focus, no longer on her but beyond her.
2. Be a duck and let it roll
When accusations came, like in the stolen lipstick and undergarments experience, my first response was to defend myself. Sometimes defense isn’t necessary, better to let the comments roll – like water droplets rolling off the back of a duck.
3. Speak with grace
Whether responding to Great Aunt or speaking about her to someone else, I determined to speak with grace. Not wanting my own words to resonate in my mind like sharp thistles , I considered how I would feel in her place.
4. Serve secretly
In the midst of Great Aunts complaints, I found myself attempting to “win points” by informing her of things I had done for her. As foolish as that sounds – even as I write now – it is pattern that I still can find myself in if not careful. My goal was (and still needs to be) to serve quietly, humbly.
5. Serve joyfully
Attitudes from within my heart had a way of creeping out. If I was discontented, it was difficult to serve with joy. This point circles back to the first. When I placed the focus on whom I was ultimately serving (taking it off of myself), the joy would return.
Reading through my journals and finding these principles, again,
I was struck at how applicable they are to me today.
This is how I want to live.
This is how I want to serve.