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Taking the Metro Under the Water

8 Apr

A day in the heart of the city is not a common occurence for us. Wanting to make the most of the experience, we chose to take the kids on the metro. To help build the expectation and excitement, it was mentioned that the ride would take us down underground and even under a river! It was meant well, but silently, fear began to grow in our little four year old. When it was time to leave, she let us know she would just as-soon stay home.  It didn’t take long to realize anxious thoughts had griped her.  She did not want to go “under the water” in a metro! (Who knows what her vision of a metro was.)

As we talked about fear during our character study this week, everyone could relate. Once it sets in, it is hard to shake at any age! Although it is often a warning signal of danger,  it can also overtake us causing all sorts of havoc in our lives.  Easily we fall into depression as a result of worrying, trying to fix something that wasn’t a problem after all (or wasn’t ours to fix).  Productivity is lost.  It is much wiser to push out the fear with what is true,  pure, lovely…   Pray , remembering God’s faithfulness. The results bring the comfort of safety, peace and maybe even a needed action.

As we boarded the metro, our daughter sat on her daddy’s lap.  She had a sense of safety within the shelter of his arms.  She was soothed by the sound of his voice.  As we took the return route home, all fear was gone. She peacefully slept. What an incredible charge we have as parents to provide shelter, comfort, peace, and safety for our children.


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I don’t know what tomorrow might hold…

14 Mar

As I begin my day this morning, I aim keenly aware of how fleeting life is.  Each day passes quickly by and is often swallowed up by various issues that seem to come in rapid fire. Before I know it, one more day is gone.

I find much joy in the typical routines of my roll as a wife and mom.  Making a huge pile of pancakes and seeing them devoured, being able to conquer a stubborn stain in the midst of a pile of laundry, helping a little one learn how to read, tucking the children in to bed at night and kissing every last stuffed animal, cuddling in my husbands arms, taking time to write a letter to my son… these are things that bring me great pleasure.

Sometimes I let seemingly urgent issues crowd out  these simple, yet important pleasures. The laundry, cooking, phone calls, and paper work can all become an ugly giant rather than a joy, demanding instant attention.

Life has a way of  rushing by like a flooded river. I do not know what tomorrow might hold; I want to be deliberate.

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I had given up hope…

10 Mar

I had given up hope.  It had been three weeks since planting all of our little veggie seeds.

The broccoli, cabbage, and brussel sprouts are all growing beautifully. The tomatoes have been a bit slow in coming, but at least half of them are up . Not so for the nice variety of pepper seeds, they appeared to be a total waste of time. No sign of them what-so-ever. I almost threw them out a few days ago to  make room for our second try.  My boys suggested I put them upstairs on top of their dresser in a sunny window and give them a bit more time.  So… up they went, out of my sight and mind.

Yesterday afternoon, my 10 year old son came enthusiastically leaping down the stairs. “The pepper plants are coming up!” Yesterday, just a few. Today, a few more.

How easily I give up! Good things take time. Often I want to see immediate results in what ever I am doing. The truth is, good things take time.

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Scared to say “No” to your kids?

5 Mar

A couple days ago I took a little girl, not my own, to get a smoothie. It was suppose to be a special treat for the two of us, but I saw within the first 30 seconds of getting in to the little Cafe that this wasn’t going to be as fun as I had expected. I walked up to the counter and asked for a peanut butter smoothie(knowing in advance what was her favorite). As I ordered her drink, I let go of her hand for a half a second and next thing I knew, she was behind the counter taking a bag of chips off the shelf. When I saw what she was up to I looked at her and quietly, but sternly, asked her to put them back. She looked at me dumbfounded and said, “but I want chips!” To say the least she was shocked that I had just told her, “no, we are not having chips right now”. We proceeded to go sit down on the tall window seats, while waiting for our drinks. As we sat there she asked me, “Yetta, why can’t I have chips?”. My response was not what she wanted. She began to pout. And cry.

It was at this point that my knowledge that she was used to getting whatever/whenever she wants, became more evident.  Why does she cry and pout whenever I say no to her? Could she actually be used to getting everything she wants?

Within a few minutes she was in tears and throwing a tantrum for not being able to have her chips. (we left the cafe, me thinking silently and wanting to tell everyone in sight, “this is not my child!”)

Anyway… maybe some parents are capable of giving their children everything and anything they might want, but the question is, “is this healthy?” Maybe there is nothing wrong with what the child wants, but could it be that it is actually healthy for them to hear “no, you can’t have that right now” and for them to respond with the Black and White Obedience with a Respectful Response?

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CHARACTER STUDIES 101

21 Feb

It started out as a typical morning, but very soon I realized the schedule would be thrown once again… older sis came reporting that younger sis said she had brushed her teeth, when in truth, she had not. I questioned how she knew this. The fact soon came to light that her toothbrush was not even wet! Never the less, younger sis would not back down claiming, yes, without a doubt, she had brushed her teeth!

One of my least favorite jobs is to play the detective and referee. Why can’t they just tell the truth and save me the long process of questioning one, then the other, until eventually, the truth is known. Or is it?

As I began to walk through this process, again, it occurred to me… When was the last time I sat down with my younger children and really taught them about the consequences of lying? Do they even know what is wrong with it? Have I shown them the benefits of being honest?

So begins:  CHARACTER STUDIES 101                                                                                                                                                                                                Week 1:  Honesty

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responding to each issue…

26 Jan

As I was reading this morning, early before household began to rise, I came across a passage that God had impressed on me years ago.  It was during one of many times of feeling incapable and unworthy of raising a houseful of children.  How could I teach and train for God’s glory?  How can I discipline each child, in each situation in a manner that is effective and bring about a lasting change in heart?

“For who among men knows the thoughts of a man except the spirit of the man which is in him? Even so the thoughts of God no one knows except the Spirit of God. Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, so that we may know the things freely given to us by God, which things we also speak, not in words taught by human wisdom, but in those taught by the Spirit, combining spiritual thoughts with spiritual words.”

1 Corinthians 2:11-13

I noticed the side note I had written next to that verse in my Bible.  “May I have ‘spiritual thoughts, words’ and wisdom as I train our children.”  The world’s wisdom says to count to 10 before dealing with an issue so as not to react in anger.  I am so thankful that God gives us so much more! We can be taught by His Spirit and given spiritual thoughts combined with spiritual words. May I always remember to pause and seek His face before responding to each issue.

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Am I Qualified To Do This Job?

26 Jan

How many days have I woke up feeling inadequate for the task before me?  Who am I to think that I am qualified to teach all of these children? I am not intellectual…I am not a certified teacher…I am not a team of teachers loaded with an impressive educational background.  My list of “I am not” is long and I am quite capable of adding to it each day.

But God…Because of God, I am more qualified then anyone else!  It is He that is in me.  Anything and everything that God calls me to do, I am more then qualified for.  He will provide all that I need to be able of accomplish the task that He has set before me.

“Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, so that we may know the things freely given to us by God, which things we also speak, not in words taught by human wisdom, but in those taught by the Spirit, combining spiritual thoughts with spiritual words.”

1 Corinthians 2: 12-13

 

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