So, what does it really mean to serve each other?

22 May

In reference to one of my last posts, in an effort to change my husband, I mentioned “taking pleasure in serving.” As a result to a comment I received, I have been pondering the meaning of the word, serve. Could the word mean different things to different people? I checked out the dictionary and found several synonyms: help, assist, work, foster, nurture…

A conversation came to my mind I had recently had with a very dear couple who have now been married for one year. I asked them what kind of advice they would have for someone who was about to be married. The first thing they mentioned was the importance of taking time to be set apart as a couple without the distractions that can so easily encumber. That advice resonated with me as Mark and I spent the first year of our married life in another state, away from home, away from both of our families. We truly did learn to depend on each other.

The second issue this couple spoke of was the great joy they took in serving each other. It was wonderful to see the smile on their faces as they described the competitive morning race to be the first to bring the other their morning coffee. They absolutely love to do things for each other! May that love continue for a lifetime!

Obviously serving will look different in each household. Some people are naturals at serving, while others simply love to be served. My husband and I serve in completely different ways, but even though it looks different, we are both serving. Not only do we serve each other in our marriage, but the entire family continually finds ways to serve the other. That is what being a family is all about!

A special thank you to my sweet hubby for always making me my first cup of morning coffee! Half the enjoyment of drinking it is knowing that it was made with love from him, especially for me!



4 Responses to “So, what does it really mean to serve each other?”

  1. Maribel May 22, 2012 at 8:52 pm #

    This made me think of the how God created women to be a helper/helpmate. But this was because it wasn’t good for him to be alone. Which takes me to Phil2:2 that we are made to be “happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose.” Ecl4:9 “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work.” We are created to serve one another. Its our purpose. You got me thinking of these verses today. Thank you~

    • Not Without Aim May 23, 2012 at 3:17 pm #

      Maribel, thanks for posting those verses. They are very applicable and great reminders – certainly giving us something to strive towards!

  2. Susan Mercado May 22, 2012 at 9:57 pm #

    So true, Becky! I love your thoughts on serving and how it may be different for each person. Dave and I love to serve eachother and after 28 years of marriage we find more ways to express our love and appreciation. I love growing old with my man!

    • Not Without Aim May 23, 2012 at 3:21 pm #

      Just like gold, it takes refining through the fire to make it better and better. I appreciate your example of marriage!

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